Behavioralism gives our kids a false sense of morals.

Behavioralism gives our kids a false sense of morals. 

Again, Tedd Tripp gets credit for all the of the listed notes. 

I found this very interesting that behaviorists do not distinguish animal from human. 

Evolutionism at it's finest, or lowest, however you chose to look at it. 

I often feel this way! I instruct my kids to 

1) Do what I say. 

2) Take the test.

3) You'll get a reward for doing well. 

But, are they really learning? 

Oh, how I desire that my kids would have a LOVE OF LEARNING!

That feels like an insurmountable mountain most days. 

It's more about "getting it done". 

Tedd Tripp said, "The heart is being wrongfully trained when we try to manipulate their behavior." 

This seems to be a bit of an oxymoron to me. 

Don't we want our kids to BEHAVE.

Don't I need to tell them what to do and then expect them to do it. 

Don't they have to get their school lessons done whether they "like" it or not.

I would say YES. 

Perhaps the weight of this talk again lies with me?! 

Do I manipulate their behavior? 

 ma·nip·u·late

verb

1. 1. 

   handle or control (a tool, mechanism, etc.), typically in a skillful manner.
2. 2. 

   control or influence (a person or situation) cleverly, unfairly, or unscrupulously.

   
   

   Yes. I do. Isn't that my God given responsibility? 

   I suppose that train, disciple, guide are all more palatable?! 

   Those sound like better parenting than manipulating! 

   
   

   Here's the CORE of the message:

   When I manipulate my children, the gospel will NEVER be CORE or central in their lives. 

   
   

   Think on that. I am. 

 On to the next question, are my children manipulating me? 

And, am I allowing it? 

Lord, help us to all see our weakness and work TOGETHER to love better!

Love learning! 

Love playing!

Love each other! 

Love being with each other!

Love ministry! 

Love Jesus! 

The Bible: 

1. Reveals to us that it's the HEART!                                               I know, I know. Here I go again. 

But it's because I'm still trying to figure out this heart thing. 

Training the HEART

vs

manipulating the BEHAVIOR!

2. Shows us where the action come from!

3. Helps us and our kids understand out heart motives. 

4. Shows us the profound need of the gospel! (Inward cleaning)

It is MY responsiblitly to get my HEART right first and then help them function out of their desire to please Jesus - not simply behave!